Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Waiting for Emotion

Last night D received word that his father died. He relayed the information to me via cell phone-with little emotion-shortly after hearing the news. His feelings toward his father have always been ambivalent in nature; they did not have a bad relationship, rather not much of a relationship at all. In the nine years I've known D, he has seen his father twice. After his father declined an invitation to our wedding, D lost touch. I'm not really sure how D feels about all of this right now. I'm not sure he knows how he feels or what to expect in the coming days, months or possibly even years. He never had much of a relationship with his father, and now he never will.

4 comments:

-R- said...

I'm so sorry, KM! I know you will be a good support system for D. I hope he is as ok as you can be when something like this happens. My thoughts are with you both.

3carnations said...

I'm sorry for the loss. Even when the relationship isn't typical, there are certainly still emotions involved. Just be there for him, whatever he's feeling.

L Sass said...

I'm so sorry to hear about that. Losing a parent is so hard, and D's complicated relationship with his father must make it even worse. Hang in there. HUGS.

audrey said...

I'm so sorry to hear this! Even with the more complicated relationship and associated emotions, I can't imagine that losing a parent could ever not be difficult. Thinking of both of you...